Tuesday, March 24, 2020

He Keeps Skipping

Tomorrow is the most important thing in life.


Self consumed with the number of hats I will be wearing this week and overwhelmed by the buzzing noises of the outside world all around me, I am so very thankful for my horse sense. Not the sense of knowing a ton of information about horses - although I do. Or the ability to ride. I am talking horse sense. That ability to feel their needs, personalities, moods and well being like a sixth sense. A skill developed day after day, morning feeding after evening feeding for years.

It's my ability to spot a tiny speck of fresh blood while pushing a wheel barrow full of hay through the mud while fending off the would-be dine and dasher. It's that ability to know someone is lame after one step in a herd of five walking in unison. A sense I am so thankful for after last night.

Last Night, my Brown Eyed Girl and I went out to do the evening chores. I love the nights we do this together. She loves on and tucks Miss Kitty into her cat house for the evening while I make the trek out to the barn to feed the horses. Tucker runs wildly chasing bunnies and the three of us meet inside the barn and walk back to the house together.

I loaded up the wheel barrow with alfalfa and started heading out to drop hay. As I pushed the wheel barrow through a muddy spot, I noticed my big old red horse, Skip, was finishing up with a roll on the ground. The horses are starting to shed already and have been very itchy, rolling and scratching against the fence posts. He got to his feet, gave a little buck and scooted out of the pen to the area where I feed every day.

Skip is a pig.
He is 100% motivated by food. I have doctored large wounds and pulled out porcupine quills without sedation and only the promise of a treat or handful of sweet feed. He is a bully at feeding time. He drives the other horses off of each pile until he settles on his favorite. Ear pinning, a little heel lifting, but for the most part he's all talk. He loves to eat and never passes up a good meal.

As I dropped the final flake of hay, I turned my wheel barrow back towards the barn and I noticed Skip walk right past the hay piles and start to lay down again. I knew. I knew in that split second that we had a problem. He was colicing and I had to do something about it quickly!

Colic in horses means "abdominal pain." It can have a variety of causes and treatments. Colic can vary greatly in severity and given a horse's size can be quite the dramatic experience. The horse's digestive system, if stretched completely out, is about 120 feet long. They are sensitive animals when it comes to food and things can go bad quickly. 

I shouted down to my Brown Eyed Girl to run in the house and get my cell phone immediately. She sensed the panic in my voice and asked what was the matter. I told her Skip was colicing and we needed to call the vet right away. She darted toward the house and I ran for a halter. I put his halter on and started to walk him. The best thing you can do is get them moving and keep them from laying down and rolling. Easier said than done. When a 1,000 lb animal decides he's going to lay down... he is laying down. All you can do is try to prevent him from rolling and thrashing around and keep tugging and pulling on him, encouraging him to get back up and keep moving. It's exhausting, I am not going to lie.

My Brown Eyed Girl came racing into the arena with my phone and I left my amazing vet a message and paged him. We kept walking.

Within the time it took for Handy Man and Mr Blue Eyes to venture outside to see what all the commotion was about, Skip was transitioning from mild to moderate colic. He started sweating on the underside of his neck, his breathing labored, he was attempting to lay down and roll more frequently and I knew this was not good. I suddenly remembered that I might have some medication in the house for colic and by the time Handy Man walked up to me I handed him the lead rope and said, "I am waiting on the vet to call me back but I think I have medicine. Can you keep him walking and if he lays down try to get him back up. But whatever you do, don't let him roll over on his back from one side to the other! This is serious!"

Deer in the headlights. That was Handy Man's look.

I didn't have time for any objections (my poor Handy Man is NOT a horse person) and I sprinted into the house. In a box with miscellaneous old pet supplies - like Boji's leg splint from when he tore a tendon in his back leg in 2006 - I found the medication I was looking for! And, it expired in 2013...

Contemplating it's validity, my vet sent me a text message that he was on his way. He told me to go ahead and give Skip 10cc of the meds orally and I said ok!

A syringe.... got it.
Needle.... check.

Houston we have a problem. The mis-matched syringe did not fit onto the end of the needle so I could draw out the medication from the vial. Several choice words and a comical attempt at trying to convince myself I could hold the syringe up to the needle in the vial and still create enough draw to pull the meds out... and I raced to the barn and started tearing apart my tack room. A smaller syringe... a bigger needle... Coooommmmmmeeee ooooonnnnnn!

Desperate times call for desperate measures and I did what any reasonable horseman would do... I found a dirty old pocket knife, cut a big old hole in the rubber stopper and got the 10cc I needed!

By the time I sprinted out to Handy Man, Skip was dripping with sweat from head to tow. He was panting and grunting - a complete mess. Skip had transitioned to severe colic. Handy Man looked irritated. He held his head while I administered the medications and we waited. The vet was still about 20 minutes away. We tried to walk again and he laid down, again. By now he was miserable. His eyes were straining, he was contorting his neck and posturing abnormally. Deep down, I got scared.

I could feel Handy Man's eyes on me. When I returned his stare, no words were spoken while our Brown Eyed Girl and Mr Blue Eyes stood watching. We both knew what was very likely to happen tonight and Handy Man suggested we try to walk Skip up into the pasture, out of the mud. I led him though the gate and I prayed it wouldn't be for the last time.

It was everything I could do not to cry. We had just been talking about sending Skip to a trainer for 30 days to get him ready for our Brown Eyed Girl to start riding this summer. I just kept thinking to myself and hoping he could hear me. We have such big plans for you Skip. I'm not ready let her see another go this soon.

He laid down in the field and just stayed there. Not trying to roll. Exhausted.

I pet his sweaty and muddy coat and just talked to him.

My Brown Eyed Girl knelt down beside me and we talked about colic. She asked me, "Mom, if he has to go to the vet's office tonight, I want to go with him."

I looked at her and I said sympathetically and truthfully, "Honey, he won't be going to the vet's tonight. If Dr. Tom can't help him here, tonight, we will have to put him down."

Her mouth fell slightly open, but she didn't shed a tear. She just nodded and said, "ok."

I took her hand and said, "I promise I will do what we can for him but the surgery is very expensive and the outcome is not always great." She nodded not truly understanding but accepting and we both silently kept praying.

Handy Man and Mr Blue Eyes left us in our moment and went back inside. 

A minute or so later Skip stirred a bit. His coat felt as if the sweating had stopped and his breathing was less labored.

Then he tried to eat the grass.

A few moments later he tried to get up. He shook of some mud and took a deep cleansing breath. Headlights rounded the cul-de-sac and Dr. Tom pulled into the pasture and drove down by the barn. We led skip to the barn and by the time we got there I said, "He is not the same horse he was 10 minutes ago.."

Dr. Tom could tell by all of our disheveled appearances that the last 40 minutes had been hard on everyone. We moved into the barn, he took Skip's vitals and we agreed he looked like he was pulling out of it. We chatted about colic, the state of the world and watched Skip for another 30 minutes.

Dr. Tom said he thought were were out of the woods. I agreed to check on him one more time that night and first thing in the morning with reports.

My Brown Eyed Girl smiled and we almost skipped back inside.

Handy Man was waiting and when we entered the living room, dry eyed, and he was confused. I announced that Skip was better and he should be ok. Hand Man was in complete shock. He kept asking how that was possible. He said he literally thought he was watching Skip die before his eyes. I said had I not had the medication or the vet on his way we might not have been so lucky. He just shook his head and said he was glad his little girl didn't have to do that all over again.

10:00 pm he was standing quietly with the others and I whispered goodnight.

6:40 am as I stepped outside this morning, the sun coming up, he nickered softly and although I couldn't see him right away, I knew it was him. I rounded the bend and there he was.


Dirty and hungry. 


But all was still right in the world... well at least my little world





Saturday, March 21, 2020

What a difference a week makes

The first weekend in March I was wondering how I was going to survive Mr Blue Eyes' insane Hockey schedule. We were gearing up for a graduation tournament and learning the "blue line" all while anticipating the overlapping of spring season try-outs. My Brown Eyed Girl was getting ready to start horseback riding lessons (by a real trainer not named Mom) and I needed to buy her new cowboy boots and jeans. Handy Man was capitalizing on warmer weather in hopes of rebounding sales after a very snowy and cold February. I was working my real estate hustle, counting down the days to spring break, and the only media worthy news I was somewhat following were the presidential debates.

I started to catch more news snippets about a virus plaguing folks in China. I somewhat disregarded the news updates from half a world away. Let's be honest, seeing Chinese civilians wearing surgical masks in public is nothing new. It's no secret that the air quality there is horrible. Then, I started to see a few social media posts about people hording loads of toilet paper and I laughed. What on earth did toilet paper have to do with some people getting sick in China?

Handy Man and I have a routine. We make our typical "grocery list" throughout the week and every Saturday morning we (I) head to our local Walmart and buy enough groceries for our week. We aren't Costco or bulk shoppers, never have been. Sure, we always have a few staples or last minute back up dinners on hand, but for the most part, we live week-by-week when it comes to grocery shopping for our family.

It's funny to think that it's only been 15 days since I created my last typical and traditional grocery list.

In the last 10 days, I have been to at least one grocery store every day... if not every-other-day.

13 days ago, standing outside the kids' school with a few parent friends, I rolled my eyes listing to them suggest adding 1-2 extra boxes of spaghetti noodles the next time I was at the store. Maybe picking up a few extra pounds of ground beef to freeze. Conspiracy theories and politics. My two least favorite topics to discuss in public. 

Within 48 hours my social media feeds were flooded with stories of toilet paper, paper towel, cleaning supplies and hand soap shortages. Handy Man called me on my way home that evening from an appointment and said he was almost out of hand soap for his employees and could no longer order it online. He couldn't find it on Amazon for a reasonable price and he stopped by two stores on his lunch break and the shelves were empty. Are you kidding me? He asked me to swing by the store on my way home and buy anything I could find. Are you kidding me?

So I did.

I walked to the back of the store, rounded the corner...


and I saw with my own two eyes empty shelves. No toilet paper. No paper towels. No Clorox wipes. No bleach. Are you kidding me? 

I turned another corner and no hand soap.

Another...


Wait? No bread? Are you kidding me?

I called Handy Man exasperated. We exchanged comments of disbelief and I agreed to try again tomorrow after my morning appointment.

That night, the emails started.
Mr Blue Eye's hockey tournament he was working so hard for, cancelled.
The next morning, school would be participating in a two week distance learning "opportunity" beginning March 23rd to April 3rd. Home schooling... Are you kidding me?
Our Spring Break stay-cation at Great Wolf Lodge, canceled.

On Friday the 13th, 9 days ago, Handy Man and I agreed that after my appointment I had better do our "weekly" shopping and not wait until the Saturday morning madness that was sure to come. I went to 4 different stores to find enough staple items to feed my family for two weeks, utilizing the meat products we already had in our freezer at home. Everything was scarce. I could not believe what I was seeing. No canned goods. No pasta noodles. No flour. No meat. No rice. No potatoes.

It was like nothing I had ever seen before. I kept waiting for Ashton Kutcher and a film crew with carts full of food to come strolling through the supermarket shouting, "You Just Got Punked!"

I told Handy Man that night about my experience and we agreed to just keep working at finding the items I was unable to buy - like macaroni and cheese! Good lord how am I supposed to survive home schooling while working from home with out Mac n Cheese!

Every day I take my unfulfilled list in order to try again.

We watch the daily updates from our President. God Bless him right now.
I watch as the economy unravels, the number of cases increases and I listen to the fear and uncertainty in the conversations with my friends, family, colleagues and clients.


Then I take a deep breath and I go over my growing unfulfilled list and I try again.

I have been on the hunt for eggs, sliced bread and ground beef for the last 5 days.


During our nightly conversations of the world's state, I confessed to him that I was glad the kids had been staying with family for the last few days, while all this craziness had been unfolding. I confessed that as a mother, part of me wants to shelter them from seeing the empty shelves and bleakness of the store they have been raised in. But another part of me wanted to show them... show them just how quickly life can change. Handy Man said we should show them. We should show them what is happening in this world because it is happening to everyone. It is unlike our generation has ever experienced and surely not theirs. It is absolutely a life lesson.

So yesterday, I took them to their store.

We had a deep conversation over breakfast and I shared with them my plan. I told them what they would see, so they would not be too shocked - I am not sure if they really believed me. We carried our unfulfilled list to the car and I gave them instructions as I drove. I told them to keep their hands in their pockets, stay by me, and they knew we would be utilizing hand sanitizer before we got back into our car. Together we walked into their store in search of eggs, sliced bread and ground beef.

They were quiet.

Still no meat.


But we did find a loaf of sliced bread!

No mac n cheese....


No paper products. 

After a bit, I asked the kids what they thought. My Brown Eyed Girl said, "Well... I think it's disturbing." I told her I agreed with her and told her that was a good word. 
Mr Blue Eyes didn't have much to say. 

We did get an extra ream of paper and a pencil sharpener for next week's impending home schooling. We had a few small victories. Egg whites, sliced bread, and the LAST box of chicken Rice-a-Roni!

They could not believe people had bought up all the toilet paper. That humored them. 


They asked for Grandma's cheesy bread with dinner and I scooped up an Italian baguette from the bakery and some mozzarella cheese. 

As I was unloading our items on the checkout conveyor, the woman at the register stopped me in my tracks, "I am sorry Mam but you can't buy two bread products."

"I am sorry? I can't what?"

"You can't buy two loafs of bread. You have to choose one. You are not allowed to buy two."

I looked down at a pair of brown and blue eyes staring back at me. I became spatially aware that the gentleman in line behind me was watching and I cannot even begin to explain the feelings that washed over me. 
It was part outrage. Part fear. Part shock. Confusion. A little bit of anxiety and panic.
Embarrassment - similar to what one might experience if their credit card was denied or they didn't have enough cash to pay for the items in their cart... only thing is I have enough money but I am being told I cannot buy something. I can not buy two loafs of bread. 

And there I was, holding up the line, faced with staring at two very different loafs of bread and choosing. Do we want garlic cheese bread with dinner? Or, do we need this loaf of sliced bread I have been looking for for the last 5 days? I started rationalizing in my head if we could make the 1/2 a loaf we still had stretch a few more days...

The kids were equally considering the choice at hand and Mr Blue Eyes said, "Mommy, I would rather have the cheesy bread. We can make pizza for lunches if we need to." I was speechless. 

We bought the Italian loaf. 

I pushed the cart outside in silence. My Brown Eyed Girl spoke up, "Don't worry mom, let's go try Safeway for bread. We might get lucky and find eggs and meet there too!"

I smiled at their optimism. 
Secretly wanted to cry inside.  
I dispersed hand sanitizer all around and we drove to the other store. 

The kids spotted bread and my Brown Eyed Girl took control, "Mom, you guys go find the eggs. I will get the bread and meet you there."

I smiled and winked at her. 

Together, we rallied and found eggs, ground beef, and sliced bread. I happily threw away my unfulfilled list and we headed home. 

These are crazy times were are living in and they seem to change every single day. History unfolding. I imagine it will get worse before it gets better. I do know one thing. I will never forget that feeling yesterday at the store. I know we as Americans are privileged. While I understand this is uncharted territory and the result of a pandemic, the unfortunate results of people hoarding items out of fear. I will continue to work hard and vote however I must from this day forward to preserve my freedoms and liberties and those of my children so that they never have to choose between two loafs of bread.